LivingIt

All these lists and goals and things....no, at some point you have to live in to it, these things have to become part of your life....you have to feel your goals/desires/dreams in the moment, as you are living your life, and in relation to your life.

For instance, I could theoretically want to find what I really want to do. I could make lists of what I like and don't like, list my dreams, hopes, goals, and aspirations. But more effective is having my primary thought be what I really want to do in life, and then letting life in each and every moment point me in the right direction. Letting my self at each and every moment first live in to the question fully, and then live in to the answer fully. This process wouldn't happen on its own. There must be other simultaneous processes and searching going on.

For instance, I want to be a nicer person. Similarly, that can not be done through reading about it, writing about it, making do lists about it, - I mean these things can help get you on the path, but ultimately this is something learned through practice in the field. It takes courage, tremendous courage to start practicing in the field. We usually start badly when we start something new in life. But we have to accept ourselves, humble ourselves, be willing to embarrass ourselves enough to begin to do it, whatever that new thing in your life is. And then you get better, of course, through practice.

And your quest for being a nicer person has somehow also helped you to know what you really want. Perhaps you are also seeking a better diet. The self-knowledge you gain through all three of these searches makes each area progress.

I could make my goal to be a successful musician, to lose weight, to make a certain amount of money, to pay off my debt. Sure, those are great goals to have. But you must also set goals to be happy, loving, confident or whatever other emotional goals you have. Without these, the successes you achieve will not make a real difference to you. But with these, which are by the way much more achievable at a much faster rate, you will be able to better and faster achieve your more material goals too. In fact, with these emotional goals set and achieved, you will automatically achieve success, wealth, fulfillment in your work, and your other material goals!